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Archive for category: Nonprofit Fundraising

Coaching, Major Gifts, Mindset, Nonprofit Fundraising

Your Different Event Mindset!

Just back from a wonderful experience with AFP Central Illinois.

SO Tremendous to be IN-PERSON for an entire day workshop, “Knowledge to EMPOWERED ACTION! Major Gifts Make the Difference!” I asked the group to share a challenge – and by a landslide the balancing act between building strong relationships with major donors and orchestrating successful events was the winner. It can often feel like walking a tightrope. Both are crucial for a thriving nonprofit, but knowing how to harmonize these two efforts is key to enjoying both more!

Group at AFP Central Illinois

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The Weight JOY of Event Planning

Anyone who has planned a large event knows it’s no small feat. But let’s revisit our mindset around events. Most of you know that I’m not wild about the staff-drain, countless hours of preparation, coordination, and execution and the toll making everything perfect can take on the team. And will it even raise the dollar goal?

But let’s reframe this. What is the best experience for the giver? While most major givers enjoy their special relationships with the development folks, events have a place. It can actually be fun IF you embrace these mindsets.

  1. Size matters – and bigger isn’t better.

Several small gatherings can be as or more effective than the cast of hundreds. Stressing over the “turnout” is stressing over the wrong thing. What is the experience you want for your guests? What can the staff manage? How can you make each one feel special? What conversations do you want to have? Who do you want to connect?

  1. Raising money may or may not be the main goal.

Authentic events that genuinely say, “We appreciate you!” may not raise money that night, but the impact on the donor’s life-long giving will be enhanced. One thing I hear TOO from major donors, “Can you ever say thank you without your hand out?” We must listen! Plus – pure thanks raises OUR JOY!

quote joy

  1. Tradition can be good — and weigh you down.

In these turbulent times, the SAME event can actually bring comfort. Something has remained the same. Or… sometimes, letting go of an event that no longer serves its purpose can free up resources for more impactful activities.  Where do you feel the joy?

  1. Partner event engagement with major donor connections.

Sure, it takes time, but engage current and prospective donors all along the way. Ask for advice. Ask to reach out to other donors before the event so there is someone to meet up with when they come. This way you are actually fostering enhanced major giving relationships WHILE planning the event – that’s fun!

special event

  1. Shut up with the speeches and showcase your organization’s mission and vision.

Provide a fun, engaging experience that reinforces your mission – the kids, recognize honorees in a lively way, showcase volunteers sharing their own stories. Relax a bit and have fun! We did a line dance at the Boys and Girls Club Newark event! What a hoot!

  1. Pre Raise the Paddle Raises

While the paddle raise can be effective, they can also create a sense of pressure. It’s important to strike a balance between encouraging generosity and respecting your guests’ comfort levels. Best way to do that is to ask most of the attendees to pledge ahead of the event – then they simply participate – already comfortably committed.

  1. Honorees need to be honored

Selecting honorees for your events is a delicate process. Ideally, they are sincerely worthy of the honor AND are willing to support your mission financially and invite others to do the same. However, this expectation can sometimes put honorees in a difficult position, especially if they feel pressured to give or to rally their network. Be sure to have clear conversations about this so you and your honorees feel good about this!

  1. STAY ON TIME – or finish early.

Events can be fun to host and plan!

Ultimately, the key to enjoying them is first to DECIDE that you are going to enjoy them! Always your choice. Then, be clear on the event purpose and scope – making sure you can engage donors all along the way to keep the joy of your relationships alive while you execute.

Events should enhance relationships, not replace them and not interfere with building them. The best events are planned so everyone has a good time – including the staff!

Invest in JOY!

August 27, 2024
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Coaching, Major Gifts, Mindset, Nonprofit Fundraising

Unstoppable: I’m still standing

“I got up again, coach.”

There’s an ancient Chinese proverb that says, “Fall down seven. Stand up eight.”

Fall down Seven. Stand up Eight.

This simple message is the recipe for a good life – a happy life – a successful life.

Cousin Jerry

Let me share a recent story. My cousin, Jerry, and his wife, Chris, celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary earlier this month.  We (Marcy and the Highlights band) provided a mix of live music and karaoke for the party. For years Jerry helped coach his daughter’s school’s basketball team. At the party, the school coach brought up 10 or so gals spanning years of teams to sing an emotional tribute performance of “We are the champions!”  The coach shared the amazing win statistics – something like over 350 wins – during Jerry’s time.

Jerry continually challenged to his players to get back up again.

When they were knocked down in the game – physically, emotionally, or spiritually – just get back up again. He stretched this into their lives – no matter what knocked them down – and encouraged them to call him and simply leave a message, “Coach, I got up again.” No details needed – no matter the situation – just the action – call it in.

They still do today.

Get back up again.

Yes, even opening your email can be a real crap shoot – An exercise in falling down and standing up again.

You move forward every day inspiring generosity to accomplish the “wins” you make in this life – for your mission, your family, yourself.

You can be feeling exhausted, defeated, discouraged, empty, alone, misunderstood, hurt, hated, disrespected, angry, frustrated….you can fall down. Maybe you yell, maybe you pound a couple of strong drinks, maybe you ask, “Who needs this stupid work anyway?”

Then you get back up. And you remember tomorrow is another day. And you give yourself and others some forgiveness and understanding for your harsh feelings and start looking for how you can mend, connect, share, reach out, love.  WIN!

Each day is a win for you.

Maybe like Elton John you sing, “I’m still standing! Yea! Yea! Yea!”

Maybe after you get up again, you reach down and extend your hand to your co-worker, spouse, child or friend and help them get up again. (Honestly THAT’S the best!)

Then maybe you call me and just leave a message, or send a text or email that says, “I got up again, coach.”

Invest in JOY!

July 24, 2024
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Coaching, Major Gifts, Mindset, Nonprofit Fundraising

Focus on what you WANT – write a RAP!

Ever ask someone what they want – in life, in their work, in their spouse, for their kids —-and get a whole ear full of what they DON’T WANT?

Do you find that you, too, focus on, and give voice to, what you DON’T want?
“I sure hope it doesn’t rain for our event.”

“I don’t think our major donors want to meet with us.”

“The board won’t connect me to their network.”

The best way to deal with this tendency is to create specific intentions for what you DO want to happen!

Here’s how:

  1. Determine what you DO want.
  2. Write this result down.
  3. Work backwards on what steps will take you to this result.

This is effective in both your life in general and also for your major donor relationship-building.

In our major gift work, a Relationship Action Plan – or RAP – guides us along in creating an artful and LIFE LONG giving relationship.  These relationships, when genuine, build the kind of trust that inspires both more and larger giving over time.

person with pen

Too often these plans are in our head! When I began a disciplined process to write these out for my top 20 or so potential givers, one benefit was a good night’s sleep!

Let’s start with a definition — A relationship action plan (RAP) is a written plan of the specific, artful actions you, and/or your partners, will take, at least once a month, your top 25-50 givers over a year or more to facilitate their maximum long-term investments using reverse engineering.

The most comprehensive plans are for your very top givers – not everyone!

Here are the 10 steps needed to create this plan and a bit about each one….

1. Givers highest in capacity & interest are selected

These can be selected as a result of elaborate research.  OR, a simple “best guess ranking” of capacity, interest and readiness will often do the trick. So don’t feel you need expensive data before you can create these. Even the smallest organization with part-time staff can use this to increase major giving.

light bulb2. Everything known is captured

Really dig in and learn all you can about these top folks.  Stop and consider what you already know about their interests, how much they really know about your organization, what legacy you think they would want to leave and what steps/actions/people/experiences/ information would help deepen the relationship to one of pride in what they can do by giving to you.

3. Partners are identified

These come from the obvious – board and other staff – but also consider other donors they know, community groups they are part of and who they connect with as part of their kids’ sports or interests.  These partners help all around the Cycle of Successful Relationships.

4. Long-term giving goals/project(s) are identified

This is really the MOST IMPORTANT STEP – what do you want them to give?  What is the highest gift you estimate this prospect is capable of making if your best guess is correct?  Dream big here!  This is the gift you will work TOWARDS! This is what you focus on!

5. Step goals/projects are identified

 

Funding smaller projects provides immediate joy right now and gives you a reason to say THANK YOU and stay in touch! How you treat them – getting the thank you letter out, letting them know how a smaller gift was used – builds trust. And you can sprinkle your conversations with them with ideas and stories that test future, and larger, giving interests.

6. Partners are recruited and engaged

Involving partners not only helps create a thoughtful relationship with your top donor but it deepens the relationship with the partner at the same time. It’s the prefect way for us to demonstrate to another donor that you are, indeed, focused on helping a donor make a gift that brings them joy, while also helping you. And it lets a partner tell you how they are most comfortable being involved in the process.

7. Action steps for monthly touches are planned for you and partners

 

You each will have your own systems – formal or informal – for calendaring this all out in a way. You must track your work to be sure you stay in touch and do what you set out to do!

8. You EXECUTE the plan

Plans without execution go nowhere. Enuf said. Embrace accountability!

9. Has the giving goal been achieved?

Throughout the year, where are you in being ready to speak an artful ask? Has your work given you clarity on the project and amount to ask for?

10. Adjust the plan moving forward

Often times your ask will open up new questions answer as you continue the conversation.  Yet OFTEN, these plans executed will lead to YES and become part of next year’s plan!

Using RAPS will help you focus and bring clarity to your goal for a giver. This planning treats your giver with respect and all the staff and partners involved also have clear direction. YOU are happier because you know what you’re doing with donors. You work in gratitude visits assuring that this key role is not overlooked.

Finally, RAPS help you raise more and larger gifts!  And that’s good for everyone!

RAP Away!

 

July 10, 2024
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Coaching, Major Gifts, Mindset, Nonprofit Fundraising

Don’t Doubt: 3 Steps to Believing You Are Well-Equipped for the Task

Have you ever faced a task and immediately doubted your ability to succeed? You’re not alone. Doubt can be a powerful force that holds us back from achieving our true potential. But it’s time to push past that uncertainty and embrace confidence. Here are three steps to help you believe that you are well-equipped for any task you undertake.

 

  1. Don’t Doubt – Decide

Decide!

The first step in conquering doubt is making a firm decision. Doubt often stems from indecision and uncertainty. When you waffle between choices, your confidence diminishes. Instead, make a deliberate decision to commit to the task at hand. Decide that you are capable and that you will succeed.

Making this decision is empowering. It shifts your mindset from one of hesitation to one of determination. You begin to view challenges as opportunities rather than obstacles. Remember, the decision to believe in yourself is the foundation of all subsequent actions. Once you’ve made this choice, you’ve already taken a significant step towards success.

  1. Don’t Doubt – Dream

On top of a mountain- Dream!

With your decision firmly in place, it’s time to dream. Visualize your success in vivid detail. Imagine the process, the progress, and the ultimate achievement of your goal. Dreaming allows you to connect emotionally with your objectives, making them feel more attainable.

Your dreams act as a roadmap, guiding you through the necessary steps to reach your destination. When doubt creeps in, revisit your dreams. Remind yourself why you started and what you hope to achieve. This vision keeps you motivated and focused, especially during challenging times.

Dreaming also helps to identify potential obstacles and devise strategies to overcome them. By anticipating challenges, you equip yourself with the tools needed to tackle them head-on. Embrace your dreams and let them propel you forward.

  1. Don’t Doubt – Do

Taking steps forward.

The final step is action. Don’t let doubt paralyze you. Take decisive steps towards your goal, no matter how small they may seem. Action breeds confidence and reduces doubt. As you make progress, your belief in your abilities strengthens.

Doing involves persistence and resilience. It’s about pushing through setbacks and learning from failures. Each step you take, each effort you make, reinforces the belief that you are well-equipped for the task. Celebrate your small victories along the way, as they are proof of your capabilities.

In conclusion, to believe you are well-equipped for any task, you must decide, dream, and do. These steps create a powerful cycle of confidence and achievement. Don’t let doubt hold you back. Embrace your potential and take action towards your goals. Remember, you are more capable than you realize – believe it, and you will achieve it.

June 24, 2024
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Coaching, Major Gifts, Mindset, Nonprofit Fundraising

Perfect Timing for Major Gift Asks

When is the best time to Ask for a Major Gift?

Great question!

But there is a BETTER question — when is the time best for your donor to give their gift?

Here’s what’s key.  We need to ASK on the DONOR’S TIMELINE – not ours. Consider these factors.

  1. Our urgency is not their urgency. Give now, we are in a campaign. We have a match until X. We can’t begin until we raise X.  While it is true that having a deadline can help some donors make a decision, most MAJOR donors invest because they want to be part of your mission.  All the time.While you may eager to meet YOUR timeline – it may not be in sync with the donor’s timeline. A certain asset may be considerably more valuable in the future. A big family event is taking time and money right now – and while the donor may have enough to do this gift now – the emotions are tied to the family event – not making a major gift.
  2. Giving decisions are often team decisions. Donors often involve others in their major giving decisions and may have traditions when players come together — Thanksgiving, during the summer family holiday – whatever. Being curious about these traditions lets you craft the best project, and also the best time, to ask for the gift. They will tell you.

summer vacation fun

  1. Life happens for our donors. As connected as they are to you – as sincere as they feel about your mission – their lives can just get in the way. It’s important to check in and share updates of the project success to get a sense of their continuing interest. It’s also important to watch your mindset. Not being able to meet may well be – not being able to meet. Vacations are a good thing! Are they still interested? “You seem to have a passion for X –would you like to continue to explore the best way for you to be part of making this happen for our school?”  Oh, yes!

 

  1. So, ASK anyway. With limited chances to see some donors, we may feel the need to ask anyway.  “How I wish we would have had more time for you to meet Teacher Smith and tour our new classroom building,” let’s them know there were more steps. Using my 3-sentence ask, ask for your best guess now — “You have a clear passion for science education. You understand that having the right tools and space is key to kindling a passion for science. Would you consider a gift of $100,000 to fund the Science Classroom?  They may well say, “Yes!” If it is more of a maybe, “Would you consider taking a tour with Teacher Smith to really understand what we are creating here?”  Continue the conversation until you are clear (because THEY are clear) that this is the right fit for them.

A giver may well be comfortable and happy with their annual gift.  We are happy to receive it AND explore something bigger, deeper, and different during the course of a campaign.  Perhaps their gift comes at the end of the campaign, or the NEXT campaign. Life-long giving.  This is how major gifts are both repeatable and scalable and continue to grow your success.

The best part of this — with all the focus on what’s best for the donor, you don’t experience any reluctance to ask for their investment. You are simply helping them find their best time to give!

Invest in JOY!

Marcy

 

 

June 11, 2024
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Coaching, Major Gifts, Mindset, Nonprofit Fundraising

Four Actions for Tackling Obstacles

Now let’s look at how YOU can jump over any Obstacles in your Path!

The Power of Positive DOING

1. Reframe an obstacle. “Not all storms come to disrupt your life; some come to clear your path.” Paulo Coelho said this and I believe it represents some of the positives that have resulted from the challenges of our Covid experience. It cleared the path, if you will, for zoom trainings, meetings and family sharing that only the sheer force of that “storm” could do. Consider that there is a silver lining in all your obstacle.

2. Engage in the Power of Positive Doing. My friend and author, BJ Gallagher, has a book, “The Power of Positive Doing.” I agree that you can actually change your thoughts and attitudes by taking positive ACTION, no matter what you are thinking or feeling. While our mindset IS important – and we should constantly work on our thinking, it can be an obstacle to manage it!  Positive doing helps!

3. Prioritize and Identify your Daily Highlight. In the book Make Time by two Google programmers, Jake Knapp and John Zeratsky, they challenge us to set one daily highlight that we commit to doing each day. I have adapted this to 2 highlights – one professional, one personal – and it is remarkable how this compounds over a month and then a year without feeling like a burden or overwhelming.

Crystal Apple


4. Adapt vs Adopt.
I’m really proud of my CASE Crystal Apple – bestowed when you achieve excellent ratings at 10 CASE national conferences. We always said CASE – the Council for the Advancement and Support of Education really stood for “Copy and Steal Everything.” To overcome obstacles, I suggest it is more effective to learn from others and ADAPT – not adopt. Your situation may be similar – but invest time to tweak another’s practice to fit your mission, audience and situation. This ADAPTING is a real obstacle jumper!

So now sit down and consider the obstacles you perceive you have to raising MORE major gifts. Reframe them, engage the power of positive doing, identify your daily highlight and DO IT, and adapt what you learn from others.

You, and your non-profit can, indeed, raise transformational gifts!  Thank you for setting yourself up for what is possible!

SHINE ON!

May 21, 2024
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Coaching, Major Gifts, Mindset, Nonprofit Fundraising

Being open to “better” even with a Gala Win

It’s the season – galas with silent auctions, live auctions paddle raises – bring your friends…and your credit cards.

Marcy & Ameer

I had the joy of being part of the Boys and Girls Club of Newark Gala this past week. Without a doubt the venue was spectacular – a palace! The food was over-the-top amazing, and people clearly enjoyed seeing friends and celebrating the honorees. And the $200,000 goal was met! It was clear that Ameer Washington, the CEO of the Boys and Girls Club is deeply respected and sincerely liked by the donors and friends of the Club.  Congrats!

Now we have the opportunity, and responsibility, to ask, “What can we do to make this experience even better?” Here are 10 questions to ask after every gala….

1. Did you stay on time?

It can be next to impossible to move a room full of people having a good time, but it’s important that we do. To pull from the theater…using hand chimes will trigger folks to move to the next space. Also, here’s the perfect time to enlist board to help by leading the way.

2. What was the noise level in the room?

The sound of happy people can be deafening! Enjoy it and leave people wanting more by mixing single speakers with group activities. The mission moment delivered can be calmer and still very effective. Paddle-rasier MC’s can be down right ear shattering.

3. Did the sound system work?

Sound is a key element for your event and not to be the place to save money. Be sure both the equipment and the people running it know what they are doing. Check it from all points around the room – not just in the middle. Could you understand what we being said or was it muddy? With poor sound, guests will begin to drift away to table conversation not hearing acceptance speeches, or those videos you worked so hard on because they gave up when they couldn’t hear.

4. Do people wait for the gala to give?

Have you promoted a culture of giving at your gala? This may seem fine, but as we encourage larger gala gifts, we promote transactions instead of fostering real giving relationships. Remember a donation is support for a cause – a gift represents feelings between people. Blending gala expectations with the MAJOR gift that will bring your giver the most joy will foster giving at both the gala and a major gift. “I gave at the gala” is not helpful in major giving.

5. What is the experience of the paddle raiser? Was the energetic auctioneer rallying bids an effective strategy, or did it overwhelm some guests?

Look honestly into the faces of the guests during the paddle raise. Are they interested? Wincing at the volume and harshness of the hired leader? Smiling after they are called out for the level they gave? Greeted and thanked by tablemates? How do they feel after participating? Trust me – this can be improved!

6. Did the live auctions engage attendees as we hoped?

“But we get big bids!” you say. I challenge you to talk to the bidders and ask if they really wanted the item, or just wanted to play a lead supportive role for the organization they care about. Would they rather just make a true gift? Can you have these conversations ahead of time? Post gala – ask them how they feel about it in a way that let’s them be honest with you. AND LISTEN!

7. Are you asking for feedback in a way that gives you the answer you want?

For one particularly harsh time master ED, his comment post event was, “I talked to several people who were happy we stayed on time.” Right. Bet cha you asked that question in the way that got the answer you were looking for. As we seek feedback we need to really put away our own sacred cows and opinions and listen with an open mind.

8. Are people leaving early?

This is a powerful sign that you need better time management, sound quality and variety. Note who leaves early and asked them what their experience was with a sincere open mind to hearing from them how they felt.

9. How do sponsors feel?

As with the guests – was the energetic auctioneer rallying bids an effective strategy, or did it overwhelm some guests? As one sponsor representative said to me, “It’s my job to attend these things – sometimes 3 a week. You can definitely feel a different energy from event to event. Some we look forward to – some we look forward to being over!” Ferret out their opinions of what could be better.

10. Are you placing the experience of your attendees over your determination to raise the money?

“We need that unrestricted giving, so these galas are just a needed part of our year.” Be willing to evaluate the REAL cost of the gala in staff time, board pressure to give or get, and be open to change.

Gala

In a room filled with our most dedicated supporters, it’s easy to assume that everyone is enjoying the event. However, taking the time to dig deeper may reveal that for some, this is just what you attend when you sincerely care about the mission – what your money does for the kids, animals, seniors, planet, whatever….

Certainly, how you connect with the attendees post event caps off their time with you. Be sure to keep asking, “How do we make you feel special?”

Thank YOU for being special, creating special moments and giving your givers good reason to give AND have a good time!

May 8, 2024
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Coaching, Major Gifts, Mindset, Nonprofit Fundraising

MORE of the F Word

In our journey to inspire generosity, the “F word” takes on a whole new meaning. No, I’m not referring to that four-letter expletive that might slip out in moments of frustration. Instead, I’m talking about a word that’s actually evasive for us: FINISHED! In fundraising, “finished” is a concept that’s as elusive as a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow. Why? As advancement professionals our work is never truly done. There’s always more needing our attention —

More connections to make,

More gratitude to express,

More conversations to have,

More opportunities to present,

More listening to do,

MORE MONEY TO RAISE! MORE GOOD TO DO!

Yet, amidst the perpetual pursuit of MORE, there are ways to find satisfaction in the feeling of completion – that feeling that comes from DONE!

Embrace the moments of being Finished -

Here are 3 TIPS to help you get more of the “F Word – FINISHED” into your life!

 

Closet

1. Pepper your life with things you CAN TRULY FINISH!  (Bite-sized and occasionally bigger.)This may sound crazy – but I love to do the wash. Folded and back in the closet – FINISHED! I love to rake a section of the lawn. FINISHED. Take 4 files and purge – FINISHED! Notice how this FEELS. Ooooohh..enjoy the feeling. It’s why we add something to the list we forgot to write down just so we can check it off! FINISHED!

2. Take time NOW to create more time LATER. Let me give you an example – a

Closet Clean!  This past weekend my dear friend, Sue, spent 6 hours with me cleaning out my closet! She’s a pro! It was not all fun to be sure, and as she proclaims, “We are still friends!” AND, it will help me find what I need faster EVERY day, pack easier and faster for my speaking trips, and enjoy the calm of the less cluttered space.

The same is true for your desk and office. Taking a Saturday morning or evening is well worth it. Spend some time to gain a bunch of time! Generally it gets messier before it gets better!

Any time you spend time NOW creating a system...

3. Strategize Relationship Building: While relationships are enduring, it’s essential to establish structured plans to foster key connections. For me, this means crafting Relationship Action Plans (RAPs) for your top major donors, ensuring regular and ARTFUL engagement. It’s not about getting the donor to the ASK, rather it’s about YOU having the structure to do YOUR part to help your major givers find the gift that is most meaningful for them. Setting aside time to create RAPS takes time NOW, but saves you time scrambling later and creates a MUCH better donor journey.

While not all donors will have complex plans, allocating dedicated time each week for nurturing relationships with potential major donors will give you space and purpose to bring others along.

Stay Aligned with your Life Purpose..

Above all of this – reflect on your overarching life purpose — to be a good parent, to live your faith, to help others be their best selves…. Clarify your vision, and take some action every day that lives it. That’s a good day!

 

Finished!

So, the next time you Find yourself caught up in the wrong F words – perhaps the Frenzy of Fundraising, and MORE, MORE, MORE, Focus on moments of “FINISHED!” Celebrate your successes, acknowledge your efforts, and remind yourself that while the work may never be truly finished, it DOES change lives, lift up communities, champion causes and bring JOY!

 

Ok…FINISHED!

 

April 24, 2024
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Coaching, Major Gifts, Mindset, Nonprofit Fundraising

But I am a unique snowflake…..

 

I’m just home from the vibrant energy of Toronto and AFP ICON! I hope wherever you were you caught a glimpse of the eclipse. Despite the clouds, the experience of witnessing total darkness and then the return of light just outside the Toronto Convention Center created a powerful shared memory!

My session, “No-Nonsense Must-Haves for Major Gift Success,” held at 8 am on Monday morning, was met with a standing-room-only enthusiastic crowd. A heartfelt thank you goes to my co-presenters and clients, Niki Richardson from TOArts and Terrance Hunter from CFCArts. They shared their real-life major giving adventures. Together, we delved into mindset, giving options, relationship building, and my 3-sentence ask. And yes, we belted out, “People love to give me money!” Who says you can’t learn and have fun at 8 am on a Monday?

Conference days are filled with oh so many conversations. It is evident that you each face unique challenges in inspiring generosity for your mission. But remember, you also possess unique skills, passion, and creativity—ingredients for overcoming any obstacle that comes your way.

ICON Toronto 2024

 

Solve your unique problems with your own unique skills...

Let’s zero in on the 5 No-Nonsense Mindset Must-Haves ANY one can experience – no matter how unique you believe you are. These are essentials for unlocking more major gifts:

1. ANY not-for-profit organization can inspire transformational giving:

No matter the hurdles, the size of your organization, your budget constraints, or staffing limitations—never doubt your opportunity to raise major gifts. It’s not about the size of the obstacle; it’s about the size of YOU and your determination to find a way, whether it’s around, over, or despite it. No excuses.

 

2. ANY fundraiser can make a conscious decision to prioritize major gift relationships: You create your life! Make a deliberate decision to allocate more time to nurturing major gift relationships. Cut through the noise of emails, social media, and the allure of the next shiny tactic. With focused effort, just a few mornings per week can pave the way for a thriving major giving program.

 

3. ANY leader can embrace donors as valued partners: Donors deserve a seat at the table. Move beyond viewing donors solely as ATMs. Major donors crave genuine connection and a sense of belonging within your organization. Embrace their desire to contribute meaningfully. As more and more major gifts are made anonymously, recognition is not the key driver – it’s appreciation. Extend a warm invitation—they are eager to engage.

 

4. ANY Board member can lead with their giving:Service on the board is commendable, but it is not enough. A board member major giving success mindset demands that Board members demonstrate their commitment to the organization’s vision through financial contributions. Every Board member can make an investment, signaling to others the importance of philanthropic leadership. No excuses—time AND talent AND treasure.

 

5. ANY one can master the math behind major giving: Understanding the impact of major gifts versus smaller donations is crucial. It takes 400 $25 gifts to equal one $10,000 gift—a stark reminder of the transformative potential of major giving. While events and annual appeals play their part, transformations that are both repeatable AND scalable come from major gifts.  Nurture these relationships with gratitude and clarity on future goals, and watch as donors eagerly ask, “What’s next?”

 

When you find yourself succumbing to feelings of scarcity or dwelling on perceived limitations, remember you hold the power to shift your mindset. Reject the role of the victim, discard the blame game, and instead, approach donor engagement with unwavering belief in your cause’s worthiness. Your success awaits—so SHINE ON!!!

 

 

April 10, 2024
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Coaching, Major Gifts, Mindset, Nonprofit Fundraising

Major gift Coach? Do YOU Deserve One?

Securing major gifts can be daunting and filled with uncertainty. Far easier to create transactional messaging and chase hits, likes and record the “data.” It’s far more tangible. Real relationships are wonderful, but messy.

 

Why should the Sky be your limit..

Whether you’re a seasoned fundraiser or a member of a nonprofit board, the task of inspiring larger gifts and cultivating recurring gifts can feel overwhelming. This is where major gift coaching – by someone who’s BEEN THERE, becomes invaluable.

 

But do you truly deserve to be supported by a major gift coach? After all, shouldn’t we do something that helps the WHOLE team?  What if you leave?  What if it doesn’t work?

 

The best advice I ever received was to absorb as much as possible from others who were doing what I wanted to do SO MUCH BETTER than I was! From athletes to entrepreneurs, the most accomplished individuals “get” that having a mentor or coach leads to getting better. Books, conferences and podcasts are great, but the one-on-one accountability and support of my upcoming call is what takes you to your BEST you!

 

I hope you have someone in your life... by Nancy Gerard

You see, my friend, tips, tactics and strategies are fine, but successful people know they need to overcome mindset blocks. Beliefs that trigger fear of asking, feelings of inadequacy, not wanting to offend or uncertainty about what to request are big barriers to success. As a major gift coach who has experienced these conversations hundreds of time, I address these mindset challenges head-on. “How did you know they were going to say that?” I am often asked! With coaching, you build the confidence and clarity you need to effectively have the conversations and form the relationships that lead to successful life-long major giving.

 

Passion for the cause is essential, but deep listening and learning about the prospective giver is needed to engage these givers effectively. A major gift coach offers guidance on interpreting relationships with donors, knowing that some conversations are similar but every donor is a bit different. Crafting compelling stories around what the money does…and really does helps you focus in on the best option to ask the donor to consider investing in.

 

There is nothing more scalable...

 

Havin Marcy's expertise... by Niki Richardson

We all need someone in our corner.  As your coach, I have an unwavering belief in your potential. In the challenging landscape of fundraising, having someone who genuinely believes in your abilities can be a game-changer. A coach provides encouragement, motivation, and accountability, empowering fundraisers and board members to push past obstacles and strive for excellence.

 

My MORE Major Gifts Accelerator program is an investment in your professional development AND also in the future of your organization and the communities it serves.  If this gets you excited – or even just curious…if 2024 is the year, set up some time with me to talk about it. Or see more about it here: https://marcyheim.com/coaching/mmg-acc/

 

Next week I’ll be in Denver at the NAYDO (North America YMCA Development Organization) Conference and the following week at AFP ICON in Toronto. Come to my sessions and corner me during the conference to talk through where you want your fundraising – and your life – to be different!

 

You DO deserve to be all you can be!

 

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